As parents, we spend every second of our lives teaching lessons. We teach manners, actions, and words. We teach concepts and creativity, independence and attitude. But in the everyday routine of it all, sometimes I feel like I have forgotten some things. So here is what I want my kids to know above all else.
1. Always choose to be kind.
Your words and actions have an impact on everyone around you. If you are kind, you can help brighten someone’s day. Kindness spreads like fire, so be that spark that sets off a blaze of kindness. I see your actions at home; I see how you help your brother, and think of nice ways to make him happy. This fills my heart with so much pride, love and happiness! I know that you are well on your way to being a kind, caring adult. Just remember to always choose kindness.
2. You have a voice.
Your thoughts and feelings matter, so use your voice to express yourself! Share your opinions, stand up for what you believe in, and be true to yourself. If you don’t like someone hugging you, tell them not to. If you want more of something, ask for it. If you have a question, ask for an answer. Your voice is your tool for communicating everything about you, so speak confidently.
3. Never stop learning.
Keep your curiosity about the world around you strong. Science and technology are forever advancing, bringing us new information. Keep your mind sharp, and yourself open to new information, even if it challenges something you think you already know. Just remember, there is always someone else who knows more than you do, so never miss an opportunity to learn.
4. You will never be alone.
Besides your dad and I, you are surrounded by people who love and support you unconditionally. Your extended family is large and full of love for you. Your grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins will always be near (or at least a phone call away). If you are going through a tough time, and need someone to listen to you, all you have to do is ask. We all love you so much, and will always be here for you.
5. Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.
There is enough negativity in the world, so don’t bring more of it onto yourself. Try new things, and don’t be afraid to be bad at them. If it’s something you enjoy, work hard to get it right. Go for your dreams without fear of failure; failure is a part of life. Being positive and learning to work through your failures and mistakes is what makes us grow and leads us to success. Know you can achieve anything that you work hard for.
6. Your hugs mean everything to me.
As you are getting older, the time of snuggles is slipping away. You no longer wish to be held in my arms while you fall asleep, and that’s just a part of life. But when you come up to me, and wrap your arms around me, my heart just fills up!! I love you so much, more than you will ever know until you have your own kids. I admire the person you are growing up to be. I respect the need for distance as you grow. But I adore the five seconds you take out of your day to give me a hug.