February 14th comes and goes every year, but why is it that we tend to think of only one day out of the year to be romantic? There is no reason you and your spouse can’t put a little of the Valentine’s Day spirit into your everyday lives. Especially when you have kids, it is important to maintain and work on your relationship with your husband or wife. A strong marriage, or relationship, gives your child a great sense of stability and support at home. Also, it keeps you and your spouse feeling connected, satisfied, and loved. So take these tips, and put a little Valentine’s Day into your every day lives.
4 Ways to Incorporate Valentine’s Day Every Day
1) Don’t allow media at the table. T.V., phones and computers can be distracting, and isolating. By not allowing them to be on or near you and your spouse at the table, it allows more opportunity for talking, and as we all know, good and open communication is a key component to having a strong relationship. It is also a good way to reconnect with your spouse on an intellectual level. Bonus: if you are eating with your kids, they will be witness to (and hopefully participant in) your conversations.
2) Kiss, hug and hold hands. When you and your spouse are reunited at the end of the day, show that you are happy to see each other with a hug and a kiss. While watching t.v., or reading a book, hold hands, or overlap your feet. Even the smallest of touches can remind you of your physical attraction to one another. A nice little back scratching session can go a long way!
3) Every day, do at least one thing for the other person. Gifts are great, but it is the message behind the gift that is always the best; knowing that someone you love was thinking about you and what you would like. Think about what your spouse would like, and try to do something nice for them. It could be as simple as taking out the trash, cleaning up a mess that they were too busy to get to, cooking a meal, or simply not leaving your socks on the living room floor at the end of the night. You don’t have to make a grand gesture to show that you love, care, and think about the other person; small, everyday acts will build up, and paint the bigger picture of love.
4) Never go to bed angry. This is a classic, but it’s that for a reason. Couples argue and fight, but strong couples will take the time to work out their differences. Sure, you may not come to an agreement on your argument before you go to bed, but you can make sure that the two of you are calm and reassured that the love between you is strong before you fall asleep. This will allow you to sleep better, and wake up without any resentment towards your spouse.